Creating Extension Libraries with separate computer systems-T200

My develop environment is vastly different than what others generally use apparently.

I have three (3) systems for development.

• VM Server running SQL Server  (\\hs-sqlvm)
  • I do NOT want to install IIS on my SQL server
• VM Server running IIS (\\hs-iisvm)
  • I do NOT want to install VS on my server
  • Acumatica installed here connects back to SQL server
• NAS unit for source code, working development (\\nas1)
  • This is where I want to create the projects, extension libraries, etc.
• my workstation running Visual Studio 2020
  • All development should be run from this system

Apparently most developers run all three, (SQL, IIS with Acumatica, Visual Studio), on ONE computer.  For me then, Acumatica development is particularly problematic as it always thinks everything is running on one system.
 

Does anyone else have a similar setup/configuration for development?
 

How do you configure Acumatica and Visual Studio to then talk to each other when they are on different actual systems? 

(I thought this would be easy simply replacing drive associations with UNC ( \\nas1\<folder>), but when you go into Acumatica it uses drive association. For example, Creating New library extension from my workstation it wants to open up a web link with IIS but I do NOT have IIS running on my workstation.  )